A simple rule of thumb: in any relationship, between friends or most importantly with someone you like/love, it's a generally accepted principle that trust should be the cement that holds everything together. Without trust, everything slowly and gradually slips out of place and you're left with a big discombobulated (heh heh) mess. In this particular case, when a girlfriend decides to go out almost every night against the wishes of her boyfriend, this glue softens and becomes undone. What makes this example even more notable, is that said girlfriend is going out and becoming inebriated at bars, and as we all know, this can let the inner whore come out in a dr Jeckyl/mr Hyde type fashion (or emotional trainwreck depending on the individual). I must first clarify that me particularly, will not enter a relationship unless I know the individual is someone I can truly trust before the act of courtship actually begins, leaving any unsaid notions trivial at most. In any event, the act of repeatedly going out by a girlfriend while her boyfriend is working nights puts boyfriend in a frustrating predicament because not only can he not verify her location, but it makes me believe that there is an underlying issue that needs to be addressed. Again, trust. Without it, there is nothing. This brings me to my next point; some insecure individuals in these particular social situations, while simultaneously adding alcohol consumption as another variable, may lead them to cheat. Now if you know me, I find cheating on a boyfriend/girlfriend to be one of the most disgusting and despicable things a person can do to another person. To put it in lay terms (i said lay lol), by agreeing to be monogamous with another person, you've already made the decision that being with this person supersedes the action of being with anyone else, because the process of taking a relationship to that level is a mutual agreement by both parties. When a relationship is established and one party in this 'agreement' puts themselves in a position for the act of cheating to be possible, it can only mean that there's an underlying issue at hand. Take for instance what im speaking about now. A boyfriend is at work locked in a ball of obligation to make money to support himself and to make money to appease his girlfriend. Boyfriend cannot go out to bar with girlfriend, boyfriend cannot 'check' on girlfriend to make sure she is where she says she is, but most importantly boyfriend is left wondering why girlfriend would put herself in this messy situation to begin with.
Now my solution that may be hard to swallow (i said swallow lol); boyfriend essentially isn't able to trust girlfriend, as well as the fact that girlfriend is willingly putting herself in these types of situations not once, not twice, but almost every night of the week, which seems to me an act of spite and as ive mentioned before, I feel as if there is a deeper underlying issue at hand. Girlfriend is probably not happy with something, and this is her way of showing it, albeit the cowards way. For her not to address whatever issue is at hand, makes me seem to think that she is either apathetic or 'getting back' at boyfriend for whatever reason. If I was in said situation, I would call girlfriend out on this and tell her that what she is doing isnt fair to boyfriend, and that boyfriend really is a good person and that since boyfriend truly cares about girlfriend, it is really hurting him emotionally. After said discussion, if girlfriend continues to act the same way, it is in the best interest of boyfriend to terminate relationship because, again, without trust, there really is nothing. Hope this short answer helps, I would get into more detail but if said boyfriend wants more advice on more detailed issues, i feel it necessary for it to be dealt with privately, because trust is just as important in keeping friendships glued together.
